Women Are Like Wine

Well, it's finally happened. I'm the big 3-0. One day I was 29 and the next morning I was 30. I'm not sure what I was expecting when I woke up that morning, but there were no real firework or ephiphanies. I followed my normal routine - shower, get ready, breakfast, work - and met with girlfriends for drinks, dinner and Chocolate Bar (I just need an excuse for the Candylicious Junkyard cheesecake).

As I was going through my day, thanking everyone for their birthday wishes and waiting for the new body aches and pains to begin, I started reflecting my past decades and on the new decade that I had just entered. I've learnt alot about life and people and yet I feel so unknowledgable. Here's what I have learned:

I have learned to be comfortable and proud of who I am - body, mind and soul!

I have learned that beauty and Tashaan are not in the designer labels, but in our hearts, our good deeds, humbleness, and smile. Do something nice for someone everyday.

I have learned that doing the right thing, means doing the right thing by my standards. And, sometimes doing the right thing really sucks.

I have learned the importance of never settling, being drama free, to expect nothing from nobody, and demand respect from everybody.

I have learned to always be honest, even when being honest means saying something unkind. Avoid the games.

I have learned that trust and respect is one of the most significant aspects of any relationship - love, business, family, friendship. Without these, there is no relationship.

I have learned that I am worthy of all signficant relationships and that not all relationships need a title. And, if a relationship doesn't work, it's not because I'm a bad person or not good enough or missing something but because there is someone and something better waiting for me around the corner.

I have learned that having a plan b is not beign pessimistic, it's being logical and prepared. Keep a first aid kit in your car and know CPR.

I have learned all people are kind and good. Its the situations that suck and bring out the ugly.

I have learned how to compromise without loosing myself.

I have learned there is no shame in enjoying Bollywood movies and hoping things have a happy dance sequence ending. But, it's also important to be realistic.

I have learned that being with someone doesn't mean always needing to go out, it means enjoying each others company even with a flat tire in the middle of nowhere.

I have learned that I don't have to be perfect to be loved. I'm good as I am - quarky, outgoing yet shy, dorky and can never keep my white pants white for more than an hour.

I have learned that I will never be perfect and will always be on a path to better myself as a human.

I have learned that I am capable of independence.

I have learned that I am never alone, even in my darkest of hours. I will always have the love of my parents, brothers, sisters, friends and God.

I have learned to always take the time to jump in the puddle after it rains.

I have learned fresh flowers make you smile and appreciate the little things in life.

I have learned to be thankful for all that I have.

I have learned the best thing is a cup of tea with a great person listening to rain or awesome music.

I have learned that just because two people love each other, does not mean they should be together.

I have learned that peoples' needs change, people grow and it is okay to "outgrow" a relationship, if growing with the relationship isn't possible.

I have learned to only do that which lets me see myself in the mirror and look people in their eyes.

I have learned that loving someone is to accept who they are, imperfections and all.

I have learned that people will hurt, even those you love. It's more important to remember their true intentions are filled with love, not hate. And, to forgive.

I have learned to always smile and laugh - its contagious and makes others feel relaxed and comfortable. Most importanly, to not take myself so seriously and to laugh at myself.

I have learned to never use people, just be honest about your expectations of the relationship, no matter how minimal it may be.

I have learned that to love with all your heart and to never stop dreaming.

I have learned that love does come when you least expect it, usually wrapped up in the complete opposite of your dreams and fantasies, followed by some klutziness, bumbling, rambling.

I have learned to work on relationships as hard as when in school and building a career.

I have learned that when I'm older and grayer, its not the looks that will matter, but if He can make me laugh and I feel respected.

I have learned that I'll be okay and I will survive.

And, I have learned that I still have a lot to learn about myself and others, and to be open to the new lessons and new relationships of this next decade.



Below is what a friend of mine sent me (not sure if he wrote it or found it online). And, it reminded me that women are like fine wine, we're better with age.

As I grow in age, I value women who are over 30 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

A woman over 30 will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask,“What are you thinking?” She doesn’t care what you think. If a woman over 30 doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it’s usually something more interesting.

A woman over 30 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom. Few women past the age of 30 give a damn what you might think about her or what she’s doing.

Women over 30 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.

A woman over 30 has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn’t trust the guy with other women. Women over 30 couldn’t care less if you’re attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won’t betray her.

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 30. They always know.

A woman over 30 looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women. Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 30 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jerk if you are acting like one! You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.

Yes, we praise women over 30 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of 30+, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year-old waitress.

Share your thoughts about women in their 30s here or email me at desigirlhouston@gmail.com