I disagree with this standard. I firmly believe that true beauty and Tashaan comes from the depths of your heart and soul, from within, not from the clothes that you wear.
Anybody can purchase fashion, but Tashaan is something that grows with you as you experience life, love with all your heart and are open to others. Remember Cinderella and her step-sisters? Cinderella looked stunning even in the rags and hand-me-downs of her two step-sisters. Whereas, donning the in the lastest fabrics and pearls from Paris, the step-sisters looked hideous.
I was reminded of this valuable lesson at the party and by two very different ladies. One, let's call her Jasmine, was average looking. She was of average height and average weight. She wore a simple black velvet dress with simple black pumps. Her hair was poker straight and shoulder length. She wasn't "fugly" but she didn't take my breath away either.
The other, let's call her Rose, was a woman of average height with slender and toned figure. She wore a beautiful saphire blue backless Cache dress to complement her blonde curls. Her accessories were divine - diamond earrings, diamond bracelet, beautiful diamond accented Marciano shoes. She walked into the warm and both the men and women were mesmerized by her beauty.
I had the chance to talk intimately to both these women and after a short while came to the conclusion that Jasmine is the true beauty and Rose is the fugliest person I had meant in a loong time!!
Jasmine was humble, interested in others, polite, eloquent and very funny! Rose was rude, arrogent, self centered and obnoxious!
After meeting them, I was reminded of Cinderella and the true essence of Tashaan. As a society, we automatically judge people based upon their clothes and their physiques. Beauty, style and Tashaan doesn't come from the clothes, purses, shoes, or diamonds that a desi girl wears. Tashaan comes from your heart; it comes from how giving you are; from how caring you are; how respectul are you to others - even those who are different; and, it comes from your confidence and ability to love you.
The true essence of Tashaan is NOT the clothes, but your heart. Is your heart pure, full of love, caring, friendly, non-judgemental, forgiving, accepting and open to others? If so, then you have Tashaan. Tashaan is not about designer clothes, big diamonds, trendy bags and shoes. These material items only enhance true Tashaan.
I believe our outfits are walking works of art. I believe our outfits are diaries to the world to tell everyone who we are. And, I believe our outfits are medium for us to express our individualitya and uniqueness to the world. But, no way are our outfits the end-all of our personality. Desi girls and Tashaan girls are complex beings and our clothes are only one dimension of that complexity.
So next time you're getting ready for a night out with the girlfriends, along with the Michael Kors shoes, don't forgot your etiquette, kind heart and soul for your Tashaan to be truely complete.
What do you think the true essence of Tashaan is? Have you ever been surprised when you met "a beautiful woman" or " fugly woman"? Tell me what you think. Post here or email me at desigirlhouston@gmail.com
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